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4 Years and Counting...

10/18/2017

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Sorry it has been awhile since my last post!  That is not necessarily a bad thing, however, as being busy means that I am living life!  

I've been stuck on that first line.  As I read it, it feels real but not entirely true.  The truth is that my ALS is progressing.  What that means to me is that absolutely everything I do is hard.  Frustratingly hard, and it is a difficult thing to live with the knowledge that it is only going to get worse.  My body feels extremely heavy, and I feel a lack of motivation and clarity in my brain from feeling exhausted all the time.  The truth of the matter is that I haven't written a post because I have had a hard time finding a way to write honestly, thinking that no one wants to hear the miserable side of things, but writing only the positive does not feel truthful.  I am generally a positive person, and feel best about myself if I can be inspiring to others.  When I feel sorry for myself I don't feel very inspiring.  And I think of the ALS heroes who never seem to give up on their quest for advocacy and a cure.  Travis always tells me that what we don't see is their personal struggle.  Because of course they have dark days.  Miserable, self-pitying, depressing days.  And that is okay, because that is our reality.  

But then several of you have reached out to me, a few people I don't even know who have told me that they enjoy reading my blog.  So instead of not writing, I will continue to share the bad with the good.  I just can't help it, I am honest to a fault.  

Travis & I had an amazing time in August in the Okanagan visiting with Kate, Malcolm, Keith, Tania, Rolo & Karma!  As we had a particularly wet summer in Ottawa, vacationing in Summerland was our summer.  It was above 30 degrees everyday, my kind of weather, my body works so much better when it's warm!  Travis's cousin Ben came for a visit, as did my cousins Debbie & Michelle.  We ate peaches, saw 54-40, visited vineyards, a lavender farm and even dared to swim in Lake Okanagan with Ogopogo!  The most special part was of course spending quality time with family, before my amazing niece was to leave for University to study nursing!  For more you can visit the Travel & the Gallery page of this website.

Not long after we returned from Summerland, we were blessed with a visit from Heather & Andy (of course we had too much fun 'nuff said)!

Travis's parents came all the way from New Zealand to stay with us for the month of September.  We had incredible weather and a great time visiting Mosaïcanada 150.  Travis & his parents went on a road trip to Toronto where they saw Rodriguez and joined the Toronto walk for ALS, while I saw Jack Johnson in Ottawa.  We spent great quality time together and enjoyed every moment.  Check out pics from the Skinner's time in Canada on the Gallery page.

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A Night out with my girls, Brittany & Katie
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Unfortunately, I came down with a case of sinusitis which layed me flat for several weeks.  When I'm sick, I have zero energy reserves, so it feels pretty miserable.  Which is why I'm an advocate for the flu shot.  Even if you feel that you never get the flu, you can carry the strain without symptoms and pass it on to others.    For more info:  www.cdc.gov/flu/about/qa/misconceptions.htm

​There have been many anniversaries lately, and with that many ups and downs.  September 19th was the 4th anniversary of my ALS diagnosis.  Happy to still be alive, but sad as I don't want to live in paralysis.  Happy I'm not there yet.  Sad at what I've lost thus far.  Happy that I am not alone.  Sad at the loss of a future.  Proud of my past.

We celebrated mom's birthday with family and finally gave her a South African Braai!

September 29th was our 8th wedding anniversary, making it 14 years together!  As you are all aware, I could not do this without Travis.  He is the most loving, patient, and compassionate caregiver anyone could ever hope for.  But no one wants their spouse to have to be a caregiver.  Travis lives with a sense of humour, an incredible work ethic and an endearing personality.  As with others living with ALS, it is difficult to not feel like a burden to your person.  I feel as though I no longer contribute to the household, and I cry, I cry a lot.  But Travis never makes me feel like a burden.  He makes me feel like his wife, and appreciates every day I stay alive for him.  
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October 4th was my brother Don's birthday.  Taken too soon, we miss him everyday.






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We celebrated Thanksgiving at Al & Jeannie's with their lovely family and again feel so grateful about the people we are surrounded by.

As our busyness slows down with the fall weather, I now have more time to spend with friends, and to plan for future travel.  Though travelling has become more difficult, I'm not ready to give up on it yet!

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Marim tobenstein link
10/18/2017 07:24:42 pm

I am so blessed to know you
You make us realize the important things in life
We appreciate all our blessings and pray that you can share many more blessings with your Knight
Bon courage our angel
Wishing that you never had to cry again except for good things

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Chelsea
10/19/2017 07:26:32 am

Love you cous. Thank you for being so open with your experiences, good and bad. You are an amazing human. Please know your family, friends and community are with you, even when we’re not there in person! Sending you much love today and every day ❤️❤️❤️

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Annemarie
10/19/2017 02:30:27 pm

You are so loved -- if you're comfortable, please share the ups and downs - that honesty doesn't make you a burden, it just makes you a person. (By the way - even heroes get a day off now and then.)
(By the way #2 - champagne works as well on bad days as it does on good ones.)
Thinking of you.

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Vincent Quinn
10/19/2017 08:34:56 pm

To leave out the crappy parts is to be dishonest. People NEED to hear the good and bad to truly understand what we face every day. To not tell what it takes to be you makes all you do seem less heroic.

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Sara Francoeur
10/20/2017 01:14:25 pm

Thank you for this Carol xo. I so appreciate your spending your precious energy writing a blog post and sharing what is real for you. What you are experiencing matters to me whether it is sad or depressing or if it is inspiring and uplifting. Sending hugs and love your way and gratitude for being you xo

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Heather
10/28/2017 04:02:11 am

Truth always. Honesty is strength, applauding you.
Love you so much.
Toasted you with Kacy and Adam - you are DEFINITELY not alone. So much to be proud of indeed.
Enormous love, more soon xxoo

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Terri Bishop
11/19/2017 01:55:24 pm

I love reading your blog and your honesty.I was diagnosed in March 2016 .I try to stay one step ahead but not look too far into the future.
Take care
Terri

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